Being Heard

As hormonal teenagers, we all feel entitled to have our opinion heard by the people with true power-adults.

Sometimes, however, it isn’t truly about the opinion as much as it is about the need of getting the attention of the people who care about it. You want others to hear you out and to know what goes on in your mind. I mean, at least I do.

Whether, it’s in our home or with our friends, in the larger picture, everyone gets shunned for a better, more interesting topic. I’m sure I’ve done it to someone and hurt them. But why did I choose to write about this? It’s a thing that just happens, right? Well because it’s damn important. 

You see, being heard gives a person a feeling of validity-like hey, someone cared enough to listen to me, I got to vent or simply put forward what I had to say in a situation. To us, as social animals, it’s important that someone looks us in the eye and listens to us-or else we end up feeling like we don’t matter, our feelings n opinions aren’t valid enough.

So here’s how I feel the need to talk about this topic-even though it’s a very small one. Some people that I really care about often..end up ignoring me or anything that is related to me. I’m not gonna name them cause they aren’t bad people, they do this without realizing where they re going wrong. It’s come to a point where I often use sarcasm to get them to ask me how my day was, or how I was in general. This has also lead me to lose faith in our relationship although that shouldn’t be possible. I don’t wanna put in efforts if they don’t want to, right? Is their life worth finding about if they think mine isn’t? I’m not right here either, I just dropped to their level, right? But this is just what happens.

I don’t wanna be dramatic, but every time I notice focus shift to another person WHILE I’m talking, I feel my heart drop a little as my happiness often ends up becoming rage and hatred for their attitude. 

Am I not as important as the other person that you apparently want to discuss with me, rather than discuss me or my matter. This is thought that often ends up infuriating me and even though I may know that it’s untrue, I end up feeling absolutely terrible during that time. 

This is what often ends up happening when you leave someone unheard or you are left so. And basically, I just wanted to tell you that it sucks. You end up losing everything that mattered with that person and sometimes you can’t even back out of any relationship for such a trivial matter. And I really shouldn’t even have to explain how terribly upsetting it is to anyone.

I wanna use this platform to tell you, folks, that it’s important that you actually listen to your circle of people. Trust me, you don’t wanna leave anyone out of the conversation. If a usually reserved person [definitely not like me] opens their mouth and hesitates, encourage it.

If you notice that someone in your group is struggling to get a chance to talk, help them out even if it’s just you listening to a story about their grandma. 

And if you are one of those people who go unheard, I’m sorry and yes, your stories are as funny, as valid as those of the next person. You got this, MAKE them listen- grab their attention.

And guess what? If they aren’t into it, it’s their loss. Even though we are young, sometimes we have awesome things to tell and/or an amazing memory, even the tiniest thing to tell. The guys who don’t end up hearing you out are obviously losing out.

Also, you will find your person. Someone who wants to listen to what you did during the day, something funny, weird, whatever- they are gonna have long conversations with you. 

This doesn’t even have to be romantic or a single person for everything. 

I have one friend that I discuss deep deep flaws of our society with, one dude that just sometimes will listen to me talk about my dogs even though he doesn’t really like them. This one idiot of my best friend calls me every night and we never run out of topics to laugh over or discuss or worry about. We literally have a 2 hours conversation planned for tomorrow and it’s gonna be awesome.[Although I just continuously end up worrying that I am a boring conversationalist for these people but that’s a topic to tackle later, phew]

So I’m saying, hey guys there is someone who feels you and also that if you find the correct people, you ain’t gonna feel that anymore. Also that this is a thing and I hope I’ve shed a little light on it. 

Thank you for taking the time to listen to me here and I implore you to LISTEN. Signing off,  Jordyn  Follow iisoulaceii for updates!!