No judgment

OMG! WHAT WILL THEY SAY?!" I heard from one of my peers in worry of whether our class would like a presentation she was giving or not.

We are all so freaking terrified of being judged that we just reel our preferences and our tastes in and stick to the norms of the society.

As long as you like the artists that your friends do, it's all good. You are appreciated for the same and no one bothers you. The minute you mention an unknown artist or an artist that is outside the norm or an artist that is disliked by a lot of people - everyone finds it absolutely imperative that they tell you and make sure you understand how bad your choice is.

As long as you fit the society's body standards and are thin you are good. If you arent thin, you should be busy exercising and doing some crazy diet cause otherwise, some random aunty will mention how your weight has increased a lot.

You think that everyone is gonna judge and dislike what you post on Instagram. People think this way because they themselves sit and judge the posts of other people... hypocrisy is a thing and in this case, it comes back to the person in the form of self-doubt. Filters upon filters and after hours of obsessing over the background of the photo, maybe 1 of 100 pictures make it to the internet.

From a young age, this fear of judgment is embedded in our brains- right from our grandparents to our own relatives and family friends. "It doesn't look good if you do this' or 'wait that's not what you are allowed to do!!

Why? Why must we be boring and conform to the standards of the world? Why can't we let go, be free, and unapologetically so? We should all let others know that 'hey... I'm a unique person one of a kind and I'm not gonna change that just because someone might look at me like I am crazy.'

Other people will eventually have to adjust...they can't hate you for being you and realizing that their opinion in your life doesn't make any difference to you. It's not like everyone HAS to like you...just the important ones and the right people will- without a second of hesitation!

And I know it's easier said than done...trust me ...I'm nowhere near perfect in this regard. But, it's a learning curve. Every small step counts, every other person you manage to convince(to do this with you) is a step in the correct direction.

So next time, Instead of looking down and just agreeing with what others have to say, 'Don't let anyone dull your sparkle!!!' 

Love,

Jordyn.